Top Questions to Ask and Impress Your Girlfriend | Increase the Fun and Level Up the Closeness

Have some fun exploring your girlfriend's thoughts on different topics and questions from the fun and random to deep and dirty.

Be the guy that makes and effort to start conversation and get to know her on a deeper level. What makes her tick, motivates her, what she dreams about, and what she doesn't like. And, if the mood is right, see if she feels like talking about her fantasies, what turns her on and off, with some key questions.

To help make things a little easier, we've put together this list of questions to ask your girlfriend designed to help strengthen your emotional and physical connection and ensure you both feel fulfilled, understood, and aligned in your goals. Asking the right questions is essential.

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First, let's start with some questions designed to get things rolling and kick off the fun.

Fun, Light, and Random Questions

• Are you a relax on vacation person or a go go activity vacation person?
• If you could explore the universe, like on Star Trek, would you leave earth if it meant never returning home?
• What do you think about tattoos? How about couples or matching tattoos?
• Are you a morning person or more of a wake up slow person?
• Do you think you would do well on one of those wilderness survivor shows?
• If you could hang out with a celebrity for a day, who would it be and why do you think you’d click?
• What movie makes you cry every time you watch it?
• Plan things out or spontaneous go with the flow?
• What is your favorite cuisine or type of food?
• Are you a good cook? What’s your specialty?
• Do I ask amazing questions that show I care and really want to get to know you?
• Are birthday’s a big deal for you? How do you like to celebrate?
• What’s the weirdest thing that’s happened to you?
• If you could live to be 500 years old, what would you do with all your time?
• What is a movie you can watch over and over again? Why?
• Dive bar, club, or fancy restaurant… which do you prefer?
• What’s your favorite Rom-Com?
• What is your favorite genre of move? T.V.?
• What’s your dream vacation?
• You just won FU money in the lottery, what would you do?
• Dog? Cat? Shark? Other? Favorite pet you had or always wanted?
• House or Penthouse/Condo?
• Dream place to live?
• What’s your favorite pastime or hobby?
• What super power would you wish for if you could have one?
• What is the craziest thing you’ve ever eaten? Or wanted to try?
• Are you spicy or mild?
• What was one of your favorite childhood memories?
• What was your favorite show, cartoon, or movie as a kid?
• Favorite book?
• What advice would you give yourself as a kid if you could go back in time?
• Do aliens exist?
• What was your favorite class in school?
• What's your dream career or job, ...other than being rich?
• What song do you turn up every time you hear it?
• Favorite pump up song?
• First concert?
• Does anyone ever say you look like someone famous?
• Do you have any weird or interesting traditions?
• Do you think I’m weird?

When the conversation moves into a more personal direction, we've put together some questions that are a bit deeper and geared to open you both up to each other and foster trust and a deeper understanding of each other.

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Closeness and Relationship Trust Building Questions

• Do you have any relationship dealbreakers?
• What kinds on things make you feel warm and gooey in a relationship?
• How do you think money should be managed or handled in a relationship or in general? Are you a saver or a spender?
• Do you feel like you can tell me anything or are you worried about how I might react or judge about something?
• Do you think it’s ok to stay friends and keep in contact with an ex?
• Do you miss me when we’re not together?
• What do you like best about me?
• What do you think I can or should work on?
• Do you prefer staying in together on the weekends or going out?
• What gets you excited to get out of bed each day? What do you look forward to?
• Have you ever had a revelation about life and how you want to live yours?
• What do you think about the saying “You only live once”? How do you plan on making the most of your one life?
• What do you think is the reason some relationships fizzle out quickly while others last a lifetime?
• Do pickup lines work? Has one ever gotten your attention?
• Are you a sleep cuddler or do you prefer a no touch zone when sleeping?
• Am I a good listener?
• Have you ever written someone a love letter or made them a mix playlist?
• Would you want to pick out your engagement ring or be surprised?
• What makes you the happiest version of yourself?
• What does success look or feel like to you?
• Who is someone you look up to or would like to be like?
• Where is your happy place when things get a little rough in life?
• What’s the biggest risk you’ve taken?
• What’s something you’ve always wanted to do, but you were either to nervous to try or it never felt like the right time?
• What do you wish people knew about you?
• What does your ideal relationship look like?
• What’s something about me you’re curious to know?
• Who is the closest person to you in your life and why?
• Do you know about Love Languages? Which one is yours?
• What do you think about big, elaborate displays of affection compared to unassuming quiet displays? Which do you prefer?
• I’m not proposing in this exact moment, but what are your views on marriage vs people that stay together forever unmarried?
• Do you remember the moment you first became interested in me?
• What do you wish I did more or more often?
• Do you tell people how we actually met or did you make up a story?
• What’s your preferred split percentage of Us Time, You Time, and Alone Time?
• What would you miss about me the most if I had to go away for a month (not leaving btw!)?
• How would  you describe yourself to a stranger?
• How would you describe me to a stranger?
• When you’re sick, do you like lots of attention and support or to be left alone?
• What’s most important to you about communication?
• Is a little white lie ok if it’s helping to avoid hurting someone?
• On a scale of 1-10, what score would you give how you feel about the world right now? What would make it better?
• On a scale of 1-10, what score would you give these questions I’m asking you???
• What quality do you feel is most important in a person, especially someone you’re dating?
• Is there anything you want to ask or tell me, but you’re too afraid, embarrassed, or shy?

Now it's time to turn up the heat and get a little more playful and spicey. We all have those exciting thoughts related to sex, the bedroom, desires, and fantasies. There is nothing wrong with opening this door and we have queued up some questions for you to heat things up.

Flirty and Dirty Questions

• Does lingerie make you feel sexy or do you think it’s a waste of time?
• Have you ever faked an orgasm? Do you do it a lot? If yes, why do you think that is?
• What do you need or what could I do to help you orgasm more often when we have sex?
• Oral, it’s a must or you could take it or leave it?
• Have you used sex toys before? Is there one you’ve been curious about?
• How adventurous would you consider yourself in (or outside) the bedroom?
• Does dirty talk or fantasy sharing turn you on?
• What is your biggest turn on?
• Where is your favorite place to be kissed? Second favorite place???
• Biggest turn off?

Emotional Connection & Deep Understanding

• What makes you feel most loved and cherished in our relationship?
• When do you feel the closest to me?
• How can I be more present for you emotionally?
• What are some small things I do that make you feel secure in our relationship?
• Is there anything I could do more often that would make you feel deeply valued?
• How do you like to receive love and affection? (Words, touch, gifts, quality time, acts of service?)
• What’s something you’ve always wanted to share with me but haven’t yet?
• What fears or insecurities do you have in relationships, and how can I help ease them?
• What’s your favorite memory of us together, and what made it so special?
• When was a time you felt completely seen and understood by me?

Strengthening Physical & Romantic Connection

• How do you feel about our level of physical affection? Would you like more or less?
• What kinds of touch make you feel the most loved?
• How can I make intimacy feel more exciting and connected for you?
• Are there any romantic gestures that make you feel deeply loved?
• What are some ways we can keep our physical connection strong, even during busy times?
• Is there anything I can do to make you feel more desired and attractive?
• How do you like to be flirted with, even when we’re in a long-term relationship?
• What’s something I do in our intimate moments that you really love?
• How can we make sure our physical intimacy continues to feel exciting and fulfilling for both of us?
• Are there any new experiences you’d like to explore together to deepen our connection?

Shared Goals & Future Vision

• Where do you see our relationship in five years? What excites you about our future?
• What are some dreams or goals you have for us as a couple?
• How can we support each other in achieving our personal goals while staying deeply connected?
• What kind of life do you envision us building together?
• Are there any traditions or rituals you’d love to start as a couple?
• How do you feel about the balance between “us time” and “me time” in our relationship?
• How do you define a successful, happy relationship? Are we on track?
• What are some major life milestones you’d like us to work toward together?
• If we ever face challenges in the future, what’s the best way for us to handle them as a team?
• How can I help make our future together feel even more exciting for you?

Communication & Conflict Resolution

• Do you feel like I listen to you deeply and with full attention?
• How can I be a better communicator when we talk about important things?
• What’s something I do during arguments that makes things better? Worse?
• When you’re feeling upset, what’s the best way for me to support you?
• How can we make sure small problems don’t turn into big ones?
• Are there any unspoken frustrations in our relationship that we should talk about?
• How can we make difficult conversations feel safer and more productive?
• What’s something you wish I understood better about how you express emotions?
• How do you feel when I apologize? Is there a way I could do it better?
• How can we continue to grow together and challenge each other in positive ways?

Keeping the Spark Alive & Having Fun Together

• What’s something fun or adventurous you’d love for us to do together?
• How can we bring more excitement into our daily routines as a couple?
• What’s a cute or silly thing we used to do that you miss?
• What’s a fantasy date or experience you’d love to have with me?
• How can I surprise you more in ways that make you happy?
• What’s something you’ve always wanted to try with me but haven’t suggested yet?
• Are there any shared hobbies or activities you’d love to explore together?
• How can we make our everyday moments feel more magical and connected?
• What’s something about me that still excites or surprises you?
• How can we make sure we keep laughing and having fun together, no matter how long we’re together?

How to Use These Questions Effectively

• Make It a Conversation, Not an Interview – Bring them up naturally during a date, cuddle session, or quiet moment together.
• Be Open & Vulnerable – Encourage her to be honest, and be ready to listen without judgment.
• Follow Through – If she shares something important, show her you care by making changes or doing what makes her feel loved.
• Make It a Habit – These aren’t one-time questions; keep revisiting them as your relationship grows.

Would you like me to refine this list based on any specific aspect of your relationship or focus on a particular area more? 😊

Conclusion

Building a strong, intimate relationship isn’t just about love—it’s about intentional connection. Asking meaningful questions is one of the most powerful ways to foster emotional closeness, deepen understanding, and ensure that both partners feel valued and heard. By engaging in open and thoughtful conversations, couples create a safe space where vulnerability is welcomed, needs are met, and shared goals align.

When you take the time to ask your partner about their thoughts, feelings, desires, and dreams, you demonstrate a genuine desire to connect, grow, and strengthen your bond. These conversations help prevent misunderstandings, nurture trust, and keep the spark alive, even in long-term relationships.

Ultimately, the key to lasting love isn’t just in the big gestures—it’s in the small, everyday moments of intentional connection. By making communication a priority and continuously seeking to know each other on a deeper level, couples can build a foundation of love that is not only passionate but also resilient, fulfilling, and enduring.

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